tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88246613360923067022024-03-01T02:10:45.302-08:00Priya Kumar - heart to heartThis blog is an interactive exchange of wisdom. Collective Creation, Clarity and Consciousness
www.priya-kumar.comPriya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.comBlogger120125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-76152093454800095762018-04-14T11:47:00.000-07:002018-04-14T11:47:52.009-07:00Perform ... Don't Patronise<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
</div>I believe in performance. I believe in delivering results. I believe in overpromising and then... over delivering. I believe in rolling up my sleeves and getting to work right after the commitment is made,,, and keeping the clock going until the expectation is delivered.<br />
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You can tell a performer from a patronizer. They both give the promise of delivery, but only one delivers. <br />
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A performer is seen at work, a patronizer is heard at work. You can hear a patronizer talking a lot about the work he will do, but don't see him doing much. A performer, on the other hand, has no time for small talks and he is hard to reach because he is neck deep into work.<br />
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A performer brainstorms and strategizes. He invites ideas. He looks for suggestions. He is always fishing for faster ways of delivery and alternate solutions. He listens.<br />
A patronizer is heard in heavy discussions about the vision and the goal, but seldom about what he will do to get there. A patronizer is good at impressing people with his articulation of the dream, but then sleeps on it when it comes to action.<br />
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And when the deadline kicks in, the patronizer is the first to cut communication lines, is the easy target of all viral infections to fall sick, and basically will have something horrific happen to him fictitious or real, to get out of the firing line on non-completion of his target. He will not win your praise but he will do everything to win your sympathy for having failed in his commitment.<br />
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A performer will stay in touch. He will ask for help if needed for he knows that he is close to his target and non-achievement would only mark a waste of his efforts and his sacrifice. He will work with you to make things happen. He will not disappear on you. He will come to work even if he is sick because he is so invested. He will do everything to not let you down because his sweat and his heart lie at the core of his work.<br />
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You can tell a performer from a patronizer. And you choose your outcome when you choose one of them.<br />
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<b>P.S.</b> I have chosen many patronizers mistaking them to be highly motivated people. And I have learned to choose well the hard way.<br />
<b>P.P.S.</b> When a patronizer finds his way into your team, you lose, and everyone involved loses because a patronizer will take you to the clouds with his talks and then rain down on you a series of losses, in terms of lost time and resources.<br />
<b>P.P.P.S.</b> I know the difference between both, and I choose to BE a performer !!!Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-68861382215584308932018-04-11T12:59:00.000-07:002018-04-11T13:03:30.462-07:00Making a Come Back to Blogging<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
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It's been a few years now... blogging has taken a back seat. But something tugs at my heart tonight, to write... away from my daily journal... into a daily blog. It's a queer expression of extroversion, where I feel the urge not just to think aloud, but to think along... with you.<br />
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I sit in my hotel room in Indore... writing.<br />
I just arrived this afternoon, and at 1.12am it seems I have been here for days. Have you ever spent a day in such high randomity, where you met with so many people and went such a great distance in that connection, that it distorted time. I think that is the power only human connection can bring. This kind of metaphysics occurs when people connect at a soul level, at a common frequency, of love.<br />
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I landed this afternoon. I spoke to a crowd of over a 1000 students in Daly College and then to a group of 150 Top CEO's in the evening. And guess what, this feels like home. They weren't strangers. These were people I had an instant connection with... the feeling that I had known them a long time. And it remained a constant all through my day.<br />
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Is my profession an accident, or am I moving to a higher place of connection?<br />
Is my presence in their presence a coincidence, or am I moving to a deeper place of love?<br />
Is my purpose leading me or am I being lead to my purpose?<br />
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The answer isn't as important as the feeling that I feel... that all is right... and that is how it should be. <br />
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Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-21018942242487955082016-08-28T14:54:00.001-07:002016-08-30T14:58:46.045-07:00Boss — Your Key to Success<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
</div>People who are at perpetual loggerheads with their bosses and seniors have set up a failing model of progress for themselves. It’s like having the Ferrari as your dream car while expressing your dislike for its functions on a daily basis. How can you aspire for a position you detest or have no admiration for, or have no acceptance for? It’s a failing model, for one, you will never arrive there, and even if you do, you will be subject to the same negativity that you held for it.<br />
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A boss-subordinate relationship is not only vital to the progress of the organization but is even more critical to the growth of the individuals involved. By rank the boss is supposed to be a mentor and a more experienced colleague who can push you towards a more flourishing future. The boss does not need to be a terror and certainly not the man you wish was dead.<br />
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The problems in the professional relationship arise when the subordinate fails to understand his boss’ position and temperament. It would pay you far beyond your imagination to <b>make an investment in understanding your boss, his working style, his experience, his achievements, his drive and more importantly his vision with you.</b> <b>His chair is your future destination and so you have to keep your eye on that goal, in this case, him.</b> His position is your future promotion and so you have to be a student of his personality, his journey, his responsibilities and his skills. Your boss’ existence is evidence for your future aspirations.<br />
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<b>Adapt to your boss’ style of working, it will serve you speed up your progress.</b> “I know my boss is a perfectionist,” says Sandeep who is a banker, “and I know very clearly that I have to make an adjustment in my professional dealing with him. My ex boss was an easygoing guy, and somehow I have carried that expectation into my new bosses attitude.” Adaptability is one of the keys to success, and if you can use that to unlock your equation with your boss, you are on the fast track to success.<br />
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<b>Work closely with your boss and demand inputs to improve your performance.</b> If your boss is constantly unhappy with your performance, find out what you are doing wrong or what you are not doing that should be done. When people don’t perform well, they just turn their backs on their boss’s comments and on the ownership of their poor performance. Don’t wait for the boss to criticize or recognize you. On a monthly basis present your performance for his feedback for improvement. And chances are that in doing that, you yourself will become aware of your progress. I would say go a step ahead and demand inputs on improvement. Get ideas on how you could perform better. It’s a profitable perspective when it comes from your boss.<br />
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<b>Discuss your career growth with your boss.</b> Express your interest in getting ahead. People on the top welcome company. Chat up with your boss to understand what you would need to do in order to deserve your next promotion. Don’t wait to be promoted, work strategically toward it. Most bosses in organizations are under utilized by their teams—they don’t speak to them, they don’t approach him, they don’t work with him. Pick your bosses brains and help him help you; he after all holds the chair you aspire for.<br />
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The major complaint that professionals confess to is that they are starved for recognition. “I don’t mind the hard work and the erratic working hours, but not being appreciated is something that steals my motivation to continue giving more.” Is a common complaint in the corporate circuit. <b>It’s nice to let your boss be aware of your motivation buttons.</b> “I work better when I know I am adding value and I am appreciated,” my employee once told me, and I have made it a point to use recognition as her carrot to keep her motivated when she is slow. And moreover recognition is a two-way traffic, your word of appreciation works wonders on your boss just like his word works on you. I have almost never seen people publicly appreciate their bosses or give them credit in their success. Appreciate and give credit to your seniors where due to guarantee your deserving share.<br />
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A boss-subordinate relationship is like an arranged marriage. You don’t even get to see your boss until you are hired. To nurture that relationship, to establish the affinity and a healthy communication, to adjust, accept and accommodate becomes your responsibility because your future in the company depends on it.<br />
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Speaking is my passion, Inspiring Change is my Business.</a>Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-11446365156914508312016-08-22T10:40:00.001-07:002016-08-22T10:40:28.733-07:00Learn Apply Teach<i>Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. If you work hard on your job you’ll make a living, if you work hard on yourself you can make a fortune.<br />
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When I was interviewing candidates for the position of ‘Sales Head’ for my company, I met this girl whose claim was that there was no one else who knew more about the training industry than her. And sure enough, two questions later, it was established that she had more information and latest happenings in the training industry than me. I hired her on the spot. Seven years later, she still continues to grow and still continues to amaze and surprise me with the insights and actionables that she comes up with on how we can expand and grow.<br />
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<b>How high you can fly in your career depends upon how deep you can dive</b> in your subject of expertise. The height is proportional to the depth. Now add to it some width, know what is happening on your left and right and how that impacts and affects you, and how that can be harnessed to push you further, you become indomitable.<br />
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How much do you know? Do you know all there is to know about your job? Have you still left a lot of room for improvement or are you constantly upgrading your skill and knowledge? The economy is changing so fast that today the customer has more or equal information about you, your company and your product as you, or sometimes even more than you. Does your knowledge supersede that of your customers, your seniors, your competitors? When you answer that in affirmative, you are on the super fast track to success.<br />
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<b>Make a habit to learn. </b>Make it a morning ritual to study, to learn, to observe, to fill in your intellect with data, with information and the ideas and energy will drive you through the day. You don’t need any one’s permission to learn, all you need is a burning desire to be ahead in the game that you have chosen to play. Remember, how much you earn, is hidden within how much you L(earn).<br />
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<b>Make a commitment to apply what you have learnt.</b> Put your information to use and it will give you results beyond your expectations. Knowledge without application is like a pen without ink. It is potential that never saw performance. Principles that lead the Indian Team to victory in cricket can be utilized to align the performance of your department. Knowledge is applicable and results are duplicable. <br />
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And once you have applied it, <b>make it your duty to teach it to others.</b> If you can teach what you have learnt and inspire others out of the results that you gained from that application, boy, you are on the fast track to success. When you share and teach, you have achieved mastery over that subject, because the best student is always the teacher. You cannot teach that which you have not fully understood. When understanding is the final result of your learning, genius shines.<br />
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<b>Commitment to your dreams is the key.</b> I am here to help.<br />
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P.S. My eighth book <a href="http://www.priya-kumar.com/the-calling2.html">The Calling—Unleash Your True Self</a> is out now. I grew a lot in writing and I hope it will do the same for you. With every order of <a href="http://www.priya-kumar.com/the-calling2.html">The Calling</a> on my website, you get a surprise gift :)<br />
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Rooting for your success,<br />
Priya Kumar<br />
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Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-86168325250809854532016-08-11T12:22:00.000-07:002016-08-11T12:22:14.474-07:00Good Is Not Good Enough<b>Never do something good enough. For it was done good enough, it most certainly should have been done better.<br />
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Today is the world where “good is the new average”. The top companies, the top employers and the top employees in the world don’t claim to be good; they claim to be the best. If you cannot claim that your services, that your attitude and that your work delivery is the best in the world, then you fall in the 75% bracket of the average performers who draw an average salary and lead an average life. To up your game, to elevate your standard of living, to belong to the elite group of performers you have change your attitude from good to best.<br />
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<b>Work to delight,</b> your customers, employers and whoever your work touches. The two extra mint leaves adds a zing into the lemonade. A little “thank you for your trust” note, in the file that you are submitting to your boss conveys a very sincere acknowledgement and reassurance of a work well done. It’s the little things that we take for granted are sometimes that things that matter most. If your work, if your delivery is not bringing a smile on the face of the receiver then you are falling into the curse average.<br />
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<b>Speed is what will add a vertical rise to your success.</b> Under promise and over deliver. There is no glory in being late or being a victim to delays. You are always going to be racing against time, for work and for your own life. Estimate the time you are going to take to finish a job and make it your job to finish it in half, and you will get into the fast lane to success. Ever notice that the fast lane isn’t crowded?<br />
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When delivering a job or service, <b>make it personal.</b> As much as there are certain ways that you like to do things, making it personal to the receiver will take you from good to best in no time. “Since it meant a lot to you to have the books tomorrow, I personally went and picked them up to get them to you”. “Since pink is your favorite color, I used pink ink to sign the books”. Get personal in your delivery. Take interest in who your target audience is, whether your seniors, customers or co-workers. Get the job done, and <b>get it done their way. </b>The rewards you will get in terms of goodwill—your reputation will begin to precede you.<br />
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Good doesn’t pay more. Good doesn’t bring you glory. Strive for best. Strive for delight, speed and always remember to make it personal.<br />
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I know how much success means to you and I know that half way into the year, you are still giving your best shot at work. I also know that there is constant pressure and bombarding of negativity from the market, the economy, the competition and the environment in general. And sometimes, that negativity works its way into our hearts and infects our enthusiasm, passion and drive and in creeps the self-doubt and limiting beliefs “Can I really do this?” That’s when you know its time to take a step back and get a grip on that power that will steer you clear to your goals. <br />
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The <a href="http://priya-kumar.com/latestworkshop/experientialworkshop/">Personal Breakthrough Workshop</a> on 20th August will get you to challenge the inhibitions that have found their way into you’re your that have been holding you back from going all out and driving your job at full steam. Walk on Fire and with that experiential learning get back your spirit to conquer and overcome all adversities. Your passion may need some dusting. Your power may need to be unleashed. Let nothing hold you back !!! Success is your inheritance. This 20th August you are invited to Re-New, Re-Boot and Re-Invent the game that you were always meant to win.<br />
Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-17461337287030938912016-08-04T02:32:00.002-07:002016-08-04T02:32:57.646-07:00Do Whatever It TakesIf you’re interested in something you will do what is convenient.<br />
If you are committed to something, you will do whatever it takes.<br />
~ Murray Smith<br />
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We make things happen, we all have made things happen—the impossible into possible, we all have such stories of victory where we moved against all odds and delivered. And the common thread weaving through these stories is that you did not have an option but to deliver. When the heat turns up and excuses are no longer acceptable, where the stakes are high, we move into “do whatever it takes mode” and deliver.<br />
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If your baby girl was in ICU, you would do whatever it takes to get whatever there is to be done to save her life. Allow me to let you in to this fact, your family, their dreams and their hopes are already in ICU. Serving them and nurturing their dreams and securing their future is not easy. You have to do whatever it takes to get whatever needs to be done.<br />
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<b>There are no shortcuts to make it to the finish line.</b> You will be disqualified in the race and in life if you make that attempt. History stands witness in every industry where people that take shortcuts may get away with it for sometime but you will also find that those people slip back to ‘start’ in time. People resort to shortcuts when they are no longer willing to do whatever it takes. And they will keep cutting their dreams short in that ratio.<br />
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Do whatever it takes means that when things are not working, you have to <b>speed up, find alternate routes, make adjustments</b> or simply do what needs to be done to get your results back on track. If 10 calls are not working and not getting you to connect with the people you need, make 20 calls. If 20 calls are not working, make 40 calls. If 40 calls are not working, hit the road and catch the people in their offices. If that is not working, ask friends for references, if that is not working, consult your boss, if that doesn’t work…. Basically, you stop when you get the job done.<br />
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I attended the inauguration of a children’s hospital one time. The CEO of the hospital told the story that the night before the inauguration, the walls of the corridor leading to the main wing were not painted. With the workers gone and the contractor not traceable, he gathered his team and they came together and painted the corridor all through the night. Its not a piece of perfection but it carries the scent of their attitude and still serves as an example for them that no one and nothing can stop you from achieving what you want, if you are willing to <b>let go of your inhibitions</b> and step up to do whatever it takes even if that means doing things that you have never done before and doing things that are not expected of you.<br />
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How would your life change if you embraced challenges head on and did not shy away from problems especially when they compelled you to leave your comfort zone and try something new? That is the definition of a problem; it instills apparent fear. You break that with self-confidence, with self-belief, with passion as your driving fuel, where you dreams are more important to you than the temporary struggles that you have to move past. A personal breakthrough awaits you at the helm of every challenge. To get you a taste of who you really are and what you are capable of doing, this 20th August, participate in the <a href="http://priya-kumar.com/latestworkshop/experientialworkshop/">Personal Breakthrough Workshop</a>. Reclaim your confidence, put a plan toward your future, put together your faith in your abilities, that you are enough, all by yourself to accomplish your goals. Walk on fire, unharmed and ignite that raging flame of confidence that you are bigger than any challenge that life and circumstance throws at you.<br />
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I am committed to keep you committed to your goals. Come make it happen. Invest in the power that is innate to you and make memories of achievement that will constantly fuel your confidence each time it takes a negative hit.<br />
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This 20th August, the <a href="http://priya-kumar.com/latestworkshop/experientialworkshop/">Personal Breakthrough Workshop</a> could be a stepping stone toward the success you are destined for.<br />
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Rooting for your success.<br />
Priya<br />
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You can also order my eighth book The Calling—Unleash Your True Self on my <a href="www.priya-kumar.com">website</a> and you get a surprise gift with every order, gratis a delighted author :)<br />
Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-74180037605236376122016-08-01T05:27:00.000-07:002016-08-01T05:27:17.129-07:00Change or Be Changed<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
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If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading – Lao Tzu<br />
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With the amount of self help books that occupy shelf space in people’s houses and with the amount of personal growth initiatives that do the rounds in conferences, the world should have been a magical place by now. So where is the ‘life of your dreams’ as promised by the best selling authors and programs?<br />
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The truth that persists and yet eludes most people is that for things to change, you have to change. Even if one didn’t read a single book, we know right from wrong, we know what we must do and should do and yet don’t do. What is needed is—change and application of what one knows to be right. So the real issue here is that with so much inspiration and guidance at our disposal, why don’t we change?<br />
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When change is optional, we opt out of leaving our comfort zone and adopting a new way of thinking or working or living. It is when change is no longer an option that people wake up and smell the coffee, and often, when that bell of change rings—it’s too late. The guy won’t quit smoking, even with the alarming propagandas and increasing restrictions, and not to mention the soaring tobacco prices. But one medical report gone wrong, he has no option but to change. If you are waiting for a ‘no other option’ report on your life, that change won’t bring you pleasure. Give yourself that ticket anyway. If your life is far from the one you have in your vision, you don’t have an option but to act now in accordance.<br />
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When pretense has become a habit people fool themselves that their life is okay and that they are on the right track. Ask someone “how are you doing?” and the rote answer that comes through is, “life is good”, whereas his bank balance, his children, his bosses can testify the contrary. Keeping a social image is one thing, but many have started lying to themselves on a daily basis that their life is okay. Okay in today’s world sucks. Why would anyone want to live an okay life and give an okay performance at work and be an okay father at home and bring back an okay paycheck? One has to stop pretending that everything is okay and gear up to make their lives better.<br />
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When people are afraid to lose they refuse to change. And by lose I don’t mean lose out on delivering results—people are actually afraid to lose their familiar ground, they are afraid to lose their friends, their comfort zone and their habits. They are not able to adjust to the idea of moving out of their familiar territory. That’s what they are afraid of. They are not afraid to lose in the future! If they had their eyes on the future, then they could also see alternate realities. They say they are looking at the future, but their sight is stuck on what they would lose in present time. Let me tell you this—whether you are heading for progress or not, times will change, your friends will change, your work will change, heck, everything will change, it already is changing. But because that change is so gradual, you don’t feel it. You will lose your health, your youth, your friends and your family, and you will also lose your life one day. Loss is inevitable. But don’t let that come in the way of the gains you can have.<br />
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There is enough material, enough inspiration and enough goodness in the world at your disposal. Getting to the petrol station is not enough, fueling up and then putting your car into gear is what will take you places. It would be quite foolish to not make power and passion a part of your life and steer it in the direction where abundance is your inheritance.<br />
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Take that step today to break through the inhibitions and the self-doubt that has been holding you back. To give you that extra edge and that much-needed push, we have a <a href="http://priya-kumar.com/latestworkshop/experientialworkshop/">Personal Breakthrough Workshop</a> on 20th August 2016, in Mumbai. If you are totally committed to making that change in your life where you want to Unleash Your True Potential and get moving on the path of your calling, register now. In this one-day workshop you get to walk on fire. You cannot help but have a different viewpoint on your own life and abilities once you walk across the path of blazing fire, unharmed, for if you can conquer fire, you sure can conquer your own limiting beliefs.<br />
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On <a href="http://priya-kumar.com/latestworkshop/experientialworkshop/">early bird registration</a> you get a one-on-one exclusive session with me where I help you create a battle plan to get you started on your vision and goals, worth Rs. 25,000 absolutely free. Not only that, you get access to three video sessions spread over the next three months that will address your concerns, keep you focused on your goals and give you the winner’s edge in your daily living.<br />
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Commitment to your dreams is the key. I am here to help.<br />
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Rooting for your success.<br />
Priya<br />
Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-27158555388002752982016-01-05T23:27:00.000-08:002016-01-05T23:27:31.576-08:00Put Your Best Foot Forward this New YearThe end always marks a new beginning, for those who choose to create one. The words below invite you to make 2016 yet another year filled with glory of your own grandeur, for that will mark the New Beginning of purpose, passion and power.<br />
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New year resolutions are clichéd statements for those who wait for the end of the year to wake up. Renewal of obsolete routines and recharging of areas that served you well will give you a much-needed boost in the New Year. Here are some ideas to start strong and stay ahead the whole year round.<br />
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<b>GET A NEW POWER FRIEND</b><br />
Friends are the building blocks of our personality. They influence our purpose and shape our decisions. Whoever said, “Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are”, was right. This new year drop the ones who only have brought slug and sorrow in your life. When my nephew said, “My friends tease me at work and make me feel bad,” my answer was, “Then they are not your friends.” Friends inspire, encourage and empower, and are the mirrors of honesty for you. Their company ignites in you the desire to be better, for that’s what they themselves stand for. Be vigilant about who you allow into your friends’ list and make amends should some have fallen out of sync with you.<br />
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<b>GET A NEW LOOK</b><br />
There is no better time for self-indulgence than the beginning of the year. Get a new wardrobe. “When I wore my new set of business suits for my meetings, I felt confident and superior,” a colleague who returned from a shopping spree abroad said. Get your hair styled. Visit a skin specialist. Revamp your diet and coach your cook or family to go in for healthy options. There is no greater and faster route to confidence than a personal make over. Invest in how you look and keep a quarterly maintenance on it.<br />
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<b>PLAN YOUR VACATION</b><br />
Never forget the primary purpose of your job: your own happiness. Plan a vacation for the year at the start of the year. It’s better to lock a vacation and let your company know in advance. That way you have a heads up to create the necessary budget for it and time to plan out your professional responsibilities. I have seen that as the year progresses, pressures begin to mount and the vacation becomes an impossibility. Don’t compromise your own time to live, enjoy and be happy.<br />
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<b>MAKE AN INVESTMENT</b><br />
Money will never be enough, even for the world’s richest people. Do something different and drastic; start the year with a financial investment; set yourself a target to fill that back. Just put some money aside for later use. Money is a tricky thing, if it sits idle, it flows out. Plug the potential leak; it might just come in handy for a luxurious family vacation or the new car that seemed out of reach.<br />
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The above actions lead to enhance your self-confidence in the New Year. That’s the best thing you can do for yourself, for it is known that confident people are usually happy, and make wiser choices and cleverer decisions.<br />
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Rooting for your success.<br />
Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com191tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-53420728375496879632015-12-20T23:18:00.000-08:002015-12-20T23:18:08.755-08:00Don't Miss The BoatLast ten days to go for 2015. Some people will miss the finish line and end up short of their goals. No amount of review meets can suppress the regret that pops up ‘I should have done this’ and ‘I could have done that’. Success like failure is a personal thing. List out all your ‘I could have’s’ and ‘I should have’s’ and put them into action right away.<br />
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Pull up all the stops, put away all the inhibitions, silence the fears and take that leap of faith into giving your all and aiming for the best performance of your life.<br />
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And no matter what happens, no matter how many ‘no’s’ or disappointments you may face on an hourly or daily basis, DO NOT take your eyes off the goal. Your world rests on your vision. If you take your eyes off the road and look to the left for 3 seconds, your car will move left by 3 degrees. Imagine if you took your eyes off the road for 10 seconds. You would be dead. Stay focused. Don’t let the obstacles deter you. Let the vision of your goal inspire you.<br />
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Use your urgency to your advantage. Don’t let the urgency of achievement make you desperate. No one likes desperate people, whether in business or in love. Use your urgency to involve people in your purpose. I was at the traffic signal one time and a street hawker knocked my window. He told me that he had the last box of strawberries to sell and if could take it he would make it in time to catch the last train home, which was 2 hours out of the city. I bought it. I had no plan to buy the strawberries but didn’t mind the purchase as it had a higher satisfaction attached to it. My box of strawberries got someone’s daddy home.<br />
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When the water level is rising more rapidly than your performance, it’s time for SOS action. Collaborate with your seniors. Don’t be afraid to meet up with the senior leadership and borrow their experience and viewpoint for ideas. They have walked in your shoes after all and they have very high stakes in your performance. I have seen teams that work tightly with the leadership have very high chances of success.<br />
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If the inflow of numbers is still eluding you, it’s time to push the pedal on the outflow. Inflow equals outflow. This is the law of the universe. What you give, you get in abundance. What goes around comes around. Your only focus should be outflow, the inflow will come, by law, it’s guaranteed. Decide the proportion of inflow you want and adjust the proportion of the outflow.<br />
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Have faith in your purpose. Treat everyone as a beneficiary of that purpose. You can never underestimate the power of goodness. Just because you don’t know him doesn’t mean that the person you met randomly at the airport cannot be a potential customer. Treat people the way you would treat your highest paying customer and you will make one as you do. Just because I am not yet your customer, should not stop you from making me a beneficiary of what you do by involving me and aligning me to your purpose.<br />
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Regret is a killer. Kill it now with determination to do what you know is right, what you know you should do, and following it through till the end. Success is waiting for those who reach the finish line. Get there to put a deserving closure to the sacrifices, you and your family made the whole year long.<br />
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Rooting for your success.<br />
Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-58945220029135191652015-12-13T10:36:00.001-08:002015-12-13T10:36:30.662-08:00Dare to Win—Beat the Fear of FailureFear of failure ranks right next to the fear of death. In fact the fear of failure seeps so deep in the minds of people and infects their enthusiasm and self-belief so severely that they had rather kill their dreams in retreat than risk success by trying. If you don’t take massive action now, your fear of failure will soon become a reality. <br />
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Purpose and practice are the best antidotes for fear. When fear raises its sinister head and attempts to pull you back, listen to your purpose, keep your eyes on the goal. When the sprint runner is at the final race in the Olympics, he knows that there is no room for fear. When the time for performance is due, all you need is your purpose to guide you and not your fears to grind you. Don’t let your fears set you back by years for recovering from its impact sometimes takes away a lifetime. When the flag has been waved all you need to focus on is to run to the finish line.<br />
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If you are here, then you can win. Your presence at your job is evidence of your ability to succeed and deliver results. I don’t know anyone who hires people to fail. If you find yourself succumbing to fear of failure, hold on to the confidence of your seniors. They have more stakes in your victory than you. Borrow confidence if you must, but don’t bow to your fears.<br />
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When fear seeps into your heart, kill it with massive action. Don’t think. Act. I feel that people give their fears more time than they deserve. Contemplation causes fear to grow. The more time you give it, the stronger it becomes. When you feel low, make another client call, go out for another meeting, send out another email. For every signal of fear combat it with action.<br />
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When the fear grows stronger and the pressure mounts—work harder. Can you run 100 meters in 11 seconds? If the building you were standing under is about to fall and safety is 100 meters away, I can bet that chances are high that you would make it there in 11 seconds. Fear is a powerful emotion. It can be a high combustion fuel to rocket you faster to success. Pressure is a call for super human action. It is an invitation to join the league of extra ordinary men and women who have created history. Do you have it in you to deliver outstanding results? If you can harness fear to fuel your practice and passion, it will push you far beyond what you think is possible.<br />
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Dare to win don’t fear to lose. Failure will come even to those who don’t try. But success only comes to those who do.<br />
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Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-78217022766480651752015-12-03T22:04:00.000-08:002015-12-03T22:04:34.620-08:00<br />
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<b>When people say “No”</b><br />
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The 10% rule in sales says that if you reach out to 10 people for your services or product, at least one will say yes. Well, some people may be happy with the 10% but my focus is on the majority 90%. My curiosity is how I can take this bulk and nudge them from a ‘no’ to a ‘yes’? The answer I found lies in the basics.<br />
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People say ‘no’ when they have no need for your product or services. That for you is critical feedback because you obviously got in touch with them because you thought that they were potential clients but they think they don’t need what you have to offer. Work at bridging that gap. If you can close that divide, you have a conversion. Investigate, question, learn and understand your potential clients better. Maybe you need to change your pitch. Maybe you missed to highlight some features about what you do. Maybe you need to win their trust. Find out and fill that blank and you will move closer to a ‘yes’.<br />
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People say ‘no’ when there is no urgency to buy. This is even more dangerous for your performance because you have probably created the need and delivered the information but since you failed to create the urgency, they will probably buy at a later day, and that probably will not be from you. Create the urgency for the sale. Give a discount if that is allowed. Make a special allowance. Give them an extra perk if it is permissible to urge them to buy. Use your creativity to create urgency.<br />
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People say ‘no’ when they do not have the authority to say ‘yes’. They may not even bother to tell you that they are not the right person to make that decision. Find out who is and contact that person. It is important to speak to the decision makers if you want to make a sale. And what would be smart is to get some tips about the decision maker so you have a selling advantage. “Can you tell me a little more about your boss?” will open doors for you for more opportunities than the one you have at hand. If that fails too, what stops you from asking for references? Please understand that people don’t like to say no. There is a certain inexplicable embarrassment that goes in telling someone off. So if you ask for references you are giving an opportunity of relief for the other person to help you.<br />
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And when ‘no’ means ‘no’, don’t give up. For whatever reasons unexplained or unavoidable, a ‘no sale’ today does not mean a ‘no sale’ forever. Keep the person in view and keep in touch. Find ways to add value to the person. Find ways to be a part of their purpose. The returns that you will eventually get, even if that means having made a good friend, will outweigh the temporary loss you felt under the disappointment of the ‘no’.<br />
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With three weeks to go for the year-end, gear up with all your strengths and energy and make the magic happen—because you can—because the persistent always win.<br />
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Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-86535232332959174432015-12-02T00:11:00.000-08:002015-12-02T00:11:19.119-08:00<b>The Final Countdown<blockquote></blockquote></b><br />
2015 is nearing the end, the last 30 days to go. The pressure is mounting professionally and personally to close the year with a bang. Let the end of the year mark a celebration of achievement and victory. And bring in the New Year with the certainty to take that accomplishment to newer heights.<br />
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Hope rests on the able shoulders of performance. If you can perform and perform to win, then there is hope for the future. Hope is not an idle phenomenon that delivers results to those who wait. Take charge. Take action. 10X your energy and output and put your performance on a power drive.<br />
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The game gets exciting when the goal seems tougher than the time left to achieve it. The adrenaline gets going when the pressure is high. Creativity comes to its best when the stakes are rising. And you discover a new side; a winner’s side in you when you are pushed to deliver beyond what you think is possible.<br />
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The good news about your goals is that the time is not up yet. If you stretch beyond yourself and march out with an unwavering determination to accomplish that which you had set for yourself, it can still be yours.<br />
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Cut the distraction. Put a DND on things that you want to do but are not in alignment with your goals at the moment. Put the parties, the long weekends and other indulgences off by a month. You will wish you had if you don’t meet your own expectations.<br />
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Build a laser sharp focus. The only thing that should exist for you should be your goal. That’s all you hear, see, breathe, eat, sleep. Energy flows where attention goes. What you put your attention on grows, and vice versa.<br />
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Collaborate, synergize and team up. If you have wavering confidence in your own ability to deliver in this last lap, don’t hold yourself back from collaborating with others. Reach out to your colleagues, seniors or even friends who will help you or maybe just push you and encourage you to stay on track and reach the finish line.<br />
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Success builds on success. And therefore ending the year on a note of victory is imperative. You would then step into the New Year with renewed self- confidence, eager to create a new game to win.<br />
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Remember, its not over till its over. There is redemptive power in making a decision. And it’s never too late. Decide to win, and you are already half way there.<br />
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Rooting for your success,always.<br />
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Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-53068489887396134792015-07-30T04:28:00.000-07:002015-07-30T04:28:52.594-07:00Push Your Luck<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivHUDKNzybfE3IHdHWKqOnqakPw-zk4q3iCbgnnNcpMw1GOZWs6Y5p5WPXfwQRgMFaBAjC9OH9ssTuAuhYK9zT_nHDg2uGgmJGIdfDkXqMq9hr4lWfgX2M8-qrYwMgt2sJxavPX-KwnNk/s1600/Connect-Your-Home-Blog-Lucky-Day-Giveaway.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivHUDKNzybfE3IHdHWKqOnqakPw-zk4q3iCbgnnNcpMw1GOZWs6Y5p5WPXfwQRgMFaBAjC9OH9ssTuAuhYK9zT_nHDg2uGgmJGIdfDkXqMq9hr4lWfgX2M8-qrYwMgt2sJxavPX-KwnNk/s200/Connect-Your-Home-Blog-Lucky-Day-Giveaway.jpg" /></a></div><br />
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I believe that luck is a matter of intention, strategic action and abundance of outflow. If you really want it and are willing to work on it and if you create enough outflow on it, you will get the results you desired. Luck isn’t really an act of randomity. Getting something for nothing is the general definition of luck by the people who have convinced themselves that circumstances are bigger than their ability to overcome them. There sure are people who were hit by that stroke of luck but they don’t survive long with it. <br />
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So how does one get lucky? By pushing it. Push your luck. What is the worst that can happen that isn’t happening already? If you want work, ask for work. What is the worst that can happen? You wont get it. But then you don’t have it anyway so asking isn’t going to make it any worse. <br />
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<b>Luck Formula #1 </b>- Outflow equals inflow: If you want to create more clients, if you want to sell more, if you want to earn more, go out and create a bigger outflow. If twenty no’s bring you one yes, then if you want ten yesses, you need to wade through two hundred no’s. That’s the only math you need to be good at to see success. When you see the guy who got ten yesses, you think he is lucky. If you look close you will find the one hundred and ninety no’s he discarded to get to the success you so envy today.<br />
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<b>Luck Formula # 2 </b>– Negotiate, push your luck: Even when you are in a tight spot, negotiate. Don’t settle for less without pushing your luck first. If the client doesn’t want to buy what you are selling, ask for a reference. If he asks for a discount, push for him to buy two to justify the lowered price. If the client doesn’t want to buy from you at all, make a friend. Either way get something out of that interaction. Put yourself in the habit of pushing your luck and you will get lucky more often.<br />
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<b>Luck Formula # 3 </b>– Positivity is the breeding ground for luck: Don’t compare yourself with failures and negativity. Use pitfalls and discouragement to find points of improvement. Don’t trap yourself with the question, “What did I do wrong?” the question that will get you lucky is “How can I do this better the next time around?” Dig for betterment, fish for positive correction, go for higher standards and you will be ahead of your own expectations.<br />
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Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-34660522300262862182015-07-19T06:37:00.000-07:002015-07-19T06:37:15.009-07:00The Last Lap<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-U4uqf1-6TtgyaYiX-mzZnslQB9BmFEShi6WDf_QXdmdXMVC3WckEsb2PLJGEcQuEU9JxSZ997x91uUSEynASpqE0R1zOnieJ5ZpyFQzYfDHYoTcBv0nfpxQ5etJMTR3Z1UEEWeXgzD8/s1600/finish-line-hang-in-there-300x300.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh-U4uqf1-6TtgyaYiX-mzZnslQB9BmFEShi6WDf_QXdmdXMVC3WckEsb2PLJGEcQuEU9JxSZ997x91uUSEynASpqE0R1zOnieJ5ZpyFQzYfDHYoTcBv0nfpxQ5etJMTR3Z1UEEWeXgzD8/s320/finish-line-hang-in-there-300x300.jpg" /></a></div><br />
The goal has been set, the agreement has been made, the action has been aligned – and yet the numbers are frighteningly apart. The major chunk of the time has been spent, and the countdown to extreme stress has begun. What needed a reasonable amount of time to execute and achieve has come to the bare minimum quota of the last lap, the last week, the last day, the last hour. How do you still make it to the finish line? How do you still get your foot in the door and make it to the world that awaits on the other side of mediocrity?<br />
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1. <b>Wake up and smell the coffee.</b> If you are on the last lap and you still have a sizable chunk of deliverables on your plate, you are in deep trouble. Wake up. Take charge. Get real. Put everything else aside and with one track focus get on top of your game. In the literal sense put a DND sign on everything that is not related to work.<br />
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2. <b>Be aware of consequences.</b> Be fully aware on how your non-achievement will impact your career and your self-confidence. Your future progress is dependent upon your current successes. Failure to deliver expectations at work is not just slowing your progress but impeding it altogether. You don’t fail the organization; you fail your own future. The organization will get another employee, where will you take your future?<br />
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3. <b>Be aware of rewards.</b> You came to work to learn, to grow and to be a success. Promotions, incentives, bonuses and perks are available to those who deliver. Success brings with it guaranteed rewards even if they are not tangible at the moment. The ability to turn the tables, to achieve against all odds, to make things go right is an ability that is the secret ingredient in all successful actions. To master that and to be at the source of that is a guarantee of success wherever you go. <br />
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4. <b>Be aggressive.</b> When the water is gushing to your neck and the pressure is building up, don’t be afraid to push people to close the deal. Even if you have to pull them into a discount, or offer a freebie, or a special gift at your personal expense, use every card that you have or may have to borrow to make the numbers happen.<br />
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5. <b>Pull all strings.</b> Go to every length to make things happen. Ask favors if necessary. Go to your senior if need be to ask his intervention. Involve friends to help out, request colleagues to fill in, solicit help from family; do whatever it takes to get the job done. Don’t be afraid to bring people into your success.<br />
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6. <b>Break all rules.</b> If what you have done so far hasn’t worked yet and the clock is ticking on the bomb of failure it’s time to break all the rules. Do what ‘you’ think is right and take responsibility for your actions. You know the market better and the situation better because you are ‘in’ it and sometimes that gives you a better perspective and chance at making the right decision than your seniors. Make that move.<br />
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7. <b>Ask for help and ideas.</b> Don’t hesitate in asking for help when you see trouble ahead. People in general like to help. It makes them feel big and it makes them feel important. Asking for help doesn’t make you small; it makes you humble in sharing the credit with people when you make it to the finish line. <br />
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8. <b>Eat, sleep and breathe success. </b>Don’t stop till you make it. Every hour, every minute, every second counts in the last lap. Everyone you meet is a potential lead. Don’t judge who the person is, you can find a lead in every person. If he doesn’t qualify as your customer, he surely knows someone who does. Success is within your reach – reach out.<br />
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9. <b>Keep your confidence and your wit at its very best. </b>Ensure that you inject yourself with positivity on an hourly basis. Whether that comes from listening to good music, tuning into an audio book, consulting with your mentor or just having a friend pep you up¬ do it. You will need every bit of confidence, every pinch of positivity and every piece of your charm to keep you on top of your game, with the attitude of winning, and chances are you will.<br />
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There will always be pressure. When this month ends, another one will start. When one target is achieved, another one will be set. The game will always be on. The circumstances will always get tougher. The budgets will always get tighter. The competition will always get rougher. If it isn’t easy now, it will not be easy in the future. If you aren’t fit now, you never will be. There is no option other than pulling up your socks, rolling up your sleeves and doing whatever it takes to get the job done. It doesn’t matter how slow your start has been or how far you are still from the finish line, when your mind is made and the decision is firm, success is always within reach-go for it.<br />
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Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-10435256283842139632015-07-13T03:27:00.001-07:002015-07-13T03:27:06.050-07:00The Future is 'Now'The quality of your journey is a clue to your destination. If you don't feel satisfaction, fulfillment and pride in what you do today, then where are you heading to in the future? <br />
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The future is NOW. It is made on what you do and how you feel about yourself today.<br />
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If you don't find happiness in what you do today, then the destination clearly holds the promise of misery in the future. If you aren't honest today, how will your lies serve you in the future? If you aren't in love with what you do, then frustration waits for you wrapped under layers of achievement that don't matter.<br />
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If money was not the objective, are you happy with what you do? are you happy with who you have become? are you proud of yourself and your work? If not, then 'check engine' light is ON, indicating for you to take a good look at your life and where you are headed. It would be a disaster to arrive at the end of life's journey only to realize this is not the destination you had in mind.<br />
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Today is the future of yesterday. If today is not where you had wanted to be, your future dreams will be ever elusive as they are in your present.<br />
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The future is NOW. Do what makes you happy. Take your time and do that what brings out the best in you, that makes you smile, that makes you special, that makes your purpose a service to others. Isn't that what you had in mind in the first place, before it got infected with what other people think and want from you?<br />
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Your life is slipping into the past daily. Today and tomorrow are all you have. If today is a life well lived, the future can't but be a consequential honor of your purpose.<br />
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Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-67681591374102232142011-07-11T02:27:00.000-07:002011-07-11T02:53:09.108-07:00"Will" against "Wont"<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeNKZOPHkmucVuugwPszJNtxevUuwFPV9K-bd0q1VBqoGB_-qlxNlFjdcpBFQtMZWsGsVu6dhi6-LyEf2av_R6FE6iX94wHdHqk5ZXfI0IiFitzO-RCREp8e8YrIAA4CX12iiHgU9MFAE/s1600/images.jpeg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 133px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeNKZOPHkmucVuugwPszJNtxevUuwFPV9K-bd0q1VBqoGB_-qlxNlFjdcpBFQtMZWsGsVu6dhi6-LyEf2av_R6FE6iX94wHdHqk5ZXfI0IiFitzO-RCREp8e8YrIAA4CX12iiHgU9MFAE/s200/images.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5628024514935567810" /></a><br /><br />Yesterday, I was washing my face in the basin and there was this annoying housefly buzzing around. I am normally tolerant of 'annoyance' but this housefly was aiming for my face. I decided to tell my house maid later to get rid of it (which she understands as kill it). I got dressed and came to the bathroom and saw a black spot on the wet floor. It was the same housefly. I bent down surprised how it had been suicidal enough to land up on the wet floor. I don't know how it did it, but it was stuck on the wet floor wings down and waving its legs in the air frantically trying to lift its wings off. I had wanted to get rid of the housefly, and here it was on the floor near dead, my job half done.<br /><br />But...... I could not turn away. I could not turn away from a life form, that was near dead, struggling to live. I could not turn away from the tiny life of a housefly with a big will to survive. I could not turn away knowing that I was the only help that it had, to live. So here is what I did - I put the tube of my face-wash next to its legs, so it got a grip. The fly climbed onto the tube. Then I left the tube by the side of the basin so it could dry off and fly away, or buzz around my face annoyingly in the evening.<br /><br />I could not shake off this incident the whole day. It was my "wont" against the housefly's "will". Life is like that.... no matter how much we think that the other person will get annoyed enough with us to get rid of us, in the end, its our own will to survive that shapes the final call. <br /><br />My friend, now a successful businessman, had no money or industry support. He had "wont work" as advises from everyone he turned to. But his will was so strong, that today, ten years later he not only owns one of the biggest fashion brands in the country but also has in his list of supporters and colleagues, the same people who had attempted to get rid of him in his early days.<br /><br />My lesson for the day came from the house fly. It's will to live was stronger than my agenda for it to die. That is true for business, that is true in relationships, that is the truth you find everywhere you go. "Will" "Intention", whatever you call it, is the primary reason for all that happens to you. If our daily intentions and willingness is aimed towards success and progress, the universe has no option but to comply.Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com19tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-43440063235053674322011-06-30T10:00:00.000-07:002011-06-30T10:04:51.676-07:00Is it YOUR purpose?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_Uml3Krw8s6qiwpIbYIUsiTV5aedL9Qu5_G4diFculB6zhObeU28yB_v85SiHM73ZLjI-Kse1DGUtRcZnEGHY-mBtObOeFqdWO820qLzSFb49dG1vKnb1SLuE5CEWPsys0GYNIMLZ0ys/s1600/images-2.jpeg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 112px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg_Uml3Krw8s6qiwpIbYIUsiTV5aedL9Qu5_G4diFculB6zhObeU28yB_v85SiHM73ZLjI-Kse1DGUtRcZnEGHY-mBtObOeFqdWO820qLzSFb49dG1vKnb1SLuE5CEWPsys0GYNIMLZ0ys/s200/images-2.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5624059780267914194" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Is it YOUR purpose?</span><br /><br />Now that we are talking about “Purpose”,,,,, a lot of thinking comes out of the closet. Just because you are doing ‘something’ or headed ‘somewhere’ does not mean that you are on the path of your purpose. You could be working for twenty five years without a clue about your purpose at work or generally in life.<br /><br />So how does one find one’s purpose? By finding the real reason why you are doing what you are doing? Here is how I helped one of my colleagues and you can see if the following serves any good for you.<br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">‘So why are you doing this job? – Because it pays my bills.<br />Why do you need to pay your bills? – Because that is my duty, responsibility.’</span><br /><br />See this was my point. A lot of people mistake duty and responsibility to be their purpose. Purpose is a personal thing. It is that force that drives you, that motivates you and inspires you. It’s beyond duty. It’s beyond responsibility. It is your soul’s desire for creation.<br /><br />So we tried again:<br /><span style="font-style:italic;"><br />‘So why are you doing this job? – Because it pays well.<br />No. Why are you doing this job and not any other job? – Because I got selected for this one!<br />If you had a choice, what kind of job would you prefer? – Ummmm, if I had a choice, I would be a musician. I love to play music. But I gave it up because I got this job.<br />Why do you want to be a musician? – Because I love music. Because when I play the guitar I get lost in another world. Time stops, my worries stop and a whole new world opens up. I love that place. I have a hundred melodies inside me…..’</span><br /><br />Now we made some massive headway. Continue with the why, until you hit upon that reason of love. Continue your search until you hit upon that emotional place that makes you gulp. Your purpose must be your purpose. Your purpose must be your love, your calling, your world that you build in the depths of soul. Your purpose must be that drive which stops time, stops your worries, and opens up a whole new world of possibilities and passion. Your purpose inspires you to think creatively, to find solutions and find in you the perseverance to stay on track. Your purpose adds value to the lives of those who are touched by it. That is your purpose.<br /><br />One thing became clear to my colleague though; he was doing something for which he had no drive, no feelings and no attachment. It was just a job and his purpose was that he had to pay his bills. That was the only reason for him to go to work. Do you think he was creative at work? Do you think he brought energy and drive to make things happen? Do you think he really added value at work? Well, if he had interviewed for a job at my company and if he had mentioned that he was taking up the job to pay his bills, I would not have hired him. <br /><br />His real purpose was to be a musician because he loved to create music. Because when he plays music he adds value to the world.<br /><br />“What is <span style="font-weight:bold;">your</span> purpose?” – What would you like to achieve in this lifetime? What would you like to do for your own self? For your family? For the world?<br />“What is <span style="font-weight:bold;">your</span> purpose?” – Finding an answer to this question can fuel you with endless energy and drive for a lifetime to see fulfillment!<br />“What is <span style="font-weight:bold;">your</span> purpose?”…….. Even if you are doing a job or are preparing for one, it is never too late to wake up to the realization of what you really want to do. And once that door is open, the next step is <span style="font-weight:bold;">HOW</span> to get through it.Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com17tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-25800321978023157692011-06-28T22:02:00.000-07:002011-06-28T22:23:29.242-07:00The Power Series<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiKp60Xm47Z46BHhhNDVhlJwYBGSVzg6R3vC8BkFUiKFnIxfQ4J0ZKBrcFqOYp7mZGGlBYZ6jyk3RlLKkDUIc0E7-NMJhMRDpd7-JUWVM3gRdRSpR_dqYHRfYRTkyyqDbKNizw5oLIAwQM/s1600/images-1.jpeg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 120px; height: 120px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiKp60Xm47Z46BHhhNDVhlJwYBGSVzg6R3vC8BkFUiKFnIxfQ4J0ZKBrcFqOYp7mZGGlBYZ6jyk3RlLKkDUIc0E7-NMJhMRDpd7-JUWVM3gRdRSpR_dqYHRfYRTkyyqDbKNizw5oLIAwQM/s200/images-1.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5623507950221751874" /></a><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Purpose-Passion-Power</span><br /><br />I have a young friend (all of 22 years) and while visiting my home, he sat down and said, "I am so confused Priya, I dont know what to do in my life. There are so many options, opportunities and openings, I am confused."<br />I guess this kind of confusion hits many. Even though this young man is at the start of his career I have seen many seasoned executives often standing at the crossroads of their professional dillema wondering, "What do I do now?"<br /><br />In my opinion, if there was a life changing question, the answer to which would put your actions, your thinking and your future towards progressive evolution, then that question is <span style="font-weight:bold;"><span style="font-style:italic;">"Why?"</span></span> Why is a question that will compel you to look for that reason, that motive behind what you will eventually choose to do. And that reason is your purpose; the purpose behind what you do.<br /><br />So before you ask yourself "What should I do? Or How should I do it?" Stop and ask yourself, "Why should I do that at all?"<br />"Why should I write?" <br />"Why should I work?"<br />"Why should I exercise?"<br />"Why should I risk in love?"<br />"Why should I marry?"<br /><br />The answer to The Why must give you goose bumps. The answer must make you stand up. If you feel the electricity flowing through your body, if you feel the surge of energy and a sudden burst of well being, then you have hit the correct why, the jackpot that will turn your life around.<br /><br />"Why should I write?" - Because I have nothing better to do - Is not The <span style="font-weight:bold;">real</span> Why. It does not excite you. It does not enthrall you. It does not inspire you to get to your table and start playing on your key board. Continue for reasons until you jump out of your chair with the spirit to change the world with your writing!!!<br /><br />Finding the real PURPOSE behind your actions is the real source of power. Purpose will ignite you, it will strengthen your spirit, it will spark your soul, it will fuel you with energy that will prevail for eternity in all the tasks you do. When someone witnesses your work, they will not help but be touched by your purpose. That is power, real power.<br /><br />Stop for a moment, put your pen to rest, put your phone back on the reciever, take your fingers of your blackberry, and think "Why am I doing what I am doing?" <br />Purpose=Power=Life.Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-561537415600163852010-10-14T01:17:00.000-07:002010-10-15T01:01:24.895-07:00Passion&Purpose, my speech on TEDx Bits Pilani,7th October in DubaiI am going to do today what I have never done in my 12 years of being a corporate trainer. I am going to read from the paper that I wrote out last night. I am a speaker and man… I can talk. But since my speaking slot is only 18 minutes, THAT needs a skill I have not yet mastered. <br /><br />If there was one after thought that I would leave you with today, then that would be the power that passion and purpose hold. When you bring passion and purpose into your job, you create realities that earlier seemed impossible. <br /><br />So how does one become passionate? See, you touch passion, when you have access to it. If this is your job and this is you. And by the way students, home makers and anyone who does not yet earn money is also doing a job. You touch passion when you move ahead of your job. A lot of people hide behind their jobs. You know someone is hiding from responsibility when they tell you, “That’s not my job!” And because they hide behind their jobs, they can never access the passion that is actually innate to human beings. It is only when you place yourself beyond the job and open yourself to the entire spectrum of responsibility, then you have immersed yourself in the ocean of passion that will drive you, that will propel you, that will sky rocket you to the life of your dreams.<br /><br />Let me take you on a little journey here: Mine. I have done three jobs and been an entrepreneur at all. I was at a seminar once and there was one lady who made a comment, she said, “Priya you are very blessed and lucky. I cannot even dream about being in your position, I am just an ordinary tuition teacher, teaching 8th grade students. To even think of reaching where you are, is unimaginable.”<br /><br />I don’t know if she really wanted to be in my position, or was she merely justifying her current reality.<br />See I started my career as a tuition teacher in 1989. I used to teach French to school children, while I was still a student. So even though I had taken a very enterprising step to earn my pocket money, I was doing the job of a teacher. <br />See a teacher’s job is to teach the student. That’s all. But passion becomes evident when the teacher not only teaches the student but also takes responsibility for the student to study. <br /><br />In doing my job as a teacher I realized my students were sent to me because they did not study in school in the first place. I had to go above my job of teaching and get the students to study. I figured that one cannot study if their mind is occupied with other stuff. When I was upset so to say that my head had stuff in it, the teachers words bounced off. Isn’t it true? When you have things occupying your mind, the words fly in front of your eyes without making any sense. I figured that for my job to last, I needed to deal with the stuff in my students heads. I needed to go beyond my job and touch that place which I now know as passion. When I cared enough to look, my students’ heads were full of the same things that fill most people’s heads, they were full of longing for love, waiting to be heard, dying to be acknowledged, worried about the love of their life, anxious about their pet, the bills to pay, the money to receive and so on. How can any one study or for that matter work or do anything when one’s head was full. I learnt that to teach them anything I had to empty their heads first. <br /><br />I remember I used to start my class by serving my students lemonade, playing a song on the guitar, to make them cheerful. When people become cheerful, the stuff in their heads temporarily unravels. During the class if they hesitated or looked lost, I asked them what was wrong. And when they told me what was wrong, I shared some of my own ‘that’s wrong with me too’ story and they emptied their stuff. Not that I offered any solution, but that I understood and I acknowledged was all that was needed to get them back to study. I baked a cake, for every students’ birthday. I taught 1900 students in 9 years and practically every day was a birthday. I watched movies with them. I took them out for picnics. I organized social service activities. I promoted their talent. I cried with them, they laughed with me and they knew they could count on me for anything that the world threw on them. My first class used to start at 8am and my last class would end at 11pm. And even though the tuition teacher would wind up the class, the friend was available twenty four hours. When there was a black out in the area, I was on a call with my student who was afraid of the dark. When things got nasty at home, my house was open for those who needed to get away. When someone’s little dog was sick, I looked after the puppy under my chair while I taught a bunch of 8th graders who also joined in the mission. I was doing a job of teacher and when I moved beyond that to encompass everything that remotely was connected with teaching; I became passionate about my job. <br /><br />My greatest compliment still remains when one father of a student called and said, “My son has high fever and he wants to come for tuitions. He says, when he comes for class, he feels better,”<br /><br />Being a tuition teacher changed my life. My first job taught me lessons I could never have managed to learn on my own. I carry those lessons to date. You know when a person’s phone line is engaged, you cannot reach him. It is true for everyone, whether you are a manager taking to a client, whether you are a lover talking to your loved one, that you can’t reach them, you can’t talk to them and be heard, if their head is full of stuff. If you could care enough to disengage their head from the stuff that they cannot seem to silence, you not only touch passion, you touch their soul. <br /><br />I started my second career as a speaker in the year 1998. It was a historic transition from tuition teacher to motivational speaker. And in two years of doing a job at speaking, I fell flat on my face. Nothing seemed to work. People said the passion was lacking and mainly that my words didn’t hit home. Something was terribly amiss and I was almost falling into the trap of “My job sucks. I am not lucky like the other speakers I had admiration for. I spoke loud, I dressed well, I said exactly what I had learnt to say but something seemed amiss.” And then one day in December 2000 it hit me when half the class of my participants walked out and never came back. I was in the rest room during the lunch break and I heard one of the participants say outside the door of my cubicle, “Why should anyone listen to her? What has she done with her life? Who is she to tell me what I should do with mine!” I stayed in the cubicle till everyone had walked out. I did not have the courage to walk out in front of them and own up to the truth they had just said. And that’s when I realized that words don’t inspire, actions do. From that day, I had one purpose, to put into action all that I was telling others to do. I had attended seminars that gave me the certificate to practice as a corporate trainer, but I had forgotten to earn my ‘right’ to motivate people. It was from December 2000 that I spent every waking hour of my day in self improvement, in self betterment, in applying every little law of success I had ever read about to my life, and conducting my seminar from THAT reality. And when I did that, my work became magical!!!! I guess when one spends one’s energy in constantly improving at one’s job, one touches passion. I had to move beyond my job of speaking words, to actually do with my life that which I expected others to.<br /><br />In moving beyond my job as a trainer I realized that words really don’t change anyone’s lives, they may bring a temporary sense of well being, but the only thing that changes lives is your own application of all that you know is right. In my seminars, I only share from my life. I have nothing to teach anyone, because that would be pretty arrogant to even imply that I have lived ‘my’ life for 37 years and I know more about ‘yours’!!!! Passion is not in leading another; passion is only found in leading oneself ahead every day. It’s been 10 years and I am still ahead of my job as a trainer and I still live my life daily in self improvement, and when that works for me, I have new stories to tell in my seminars. <br /><br />Anyone can be a trainer, as long as they realize that people don’t need you to tell them what to do, they need you tell them what you did when you didn’t know what to do. They need to know what you did when you hurt when you failed when you were lost and had nowhere to go. And when you tell them THAT truth, you become the greatest trainer in the world. <br /><br />And then a lady comes along and says, “Priya you are very blessed and I am just an ordinary tuition teacher, teaching 8th grade students.” In my long career I know of many ordinary trainers and many extra ordinary tuition teachers, and what sets them apart is not the work that they do, but how far they go to get their work done.<br /><br />Now coming to my 3rd job. In 2009 I started a new job as an author. A few weeks ago I met a gentleman at dinner and I was introduced as, “This is Priya, she is an author,” And the gentleman said, “How nice to meet you, I am also writing a book.” And I love it when people say that, I said, “No, Sir. You are not writing a book, you are talking to me.” He was a little puzzled and said, “No. I AM writing a book.” And I said, “NOOOOO. You are talking to me!” You see, he was not getting it. Finally I had to tell him. You don’t have a pen and paper in your hand right now. What kind of statement is “I am writing a book” when you clearly aren’t!!! When you don’t put a time line on your job – you dissipate passion and you invite frustration. When you don’t align yourself on the start and finish line, you are not even in the race, forget in the job. And if you are not in the job, then passion is not even a necessity. You have to make time for your job first, and then to go beyond it for passion to even exist.<br /><br />In doing my job as an author, and by the way, it’s a job of great responsibility, I can say that yet again, I have discovered a BIGGER and BETTER me. A journalist asked me one day, “So how did you create this story?” And she left me speechless for the entire interview. I had to call her back after 2 days to finish her questions. See all I knew was that I WROTE the story. HOW? I don’t know. All I knew was that I went off alone, gave my office authority to my manager and said, you are the boss, I kept my phones off and I just wrote. How did I create the story? That answer changed the way I have lived ever since. See, up until then I thought passion was enough to create legends and it was here I learnt, that purpose is superior to passion. <br /><br />Let me explain this. You see, I created a story. I knew I wanted to write a story that would add great value to the life of the readers. So the purpose of the book was created first. I wanted to write a book which very subtly, very gently, through a thrilling adventure persuaded people to wake up and stop complaining and take control of their lives. After the purpose was set, the characters were created. I knew there was a lead character of a lost soul. I then created the master, the wise person who had the answer to all the questions ever asked. Then I created a lot of obstacles and put the lead character through tests and turmoil’s and traumas. Then I also created all the characters who would pose problems for the lead character. I then created realizations, solutions, passion , victory and wisdom that the lead character discovered about herself to over come all the challenges that came her way and emerged glorious at the end of the fable. Those 8 days of my life, I lived a parallel life literally. I lived as each one of the characters individually. When I wrote about the hero, I became the hero. When I wrote about the villain, I became one. When I wrote about the master, I could only do that by becoming one first. Those 8 days I stopped living my life as Priya Kumar the corporate trainer and I started to live the life of all the characters, which by the way were totally created by me from start to finish. The lost, the wise, the evil, the good were all my creation, an extension of my own thinking which all eventually came into alignment with my original purpose of writing the book. How the book would end was evident from the purpose with which the book was started, isn’t it? I can’t have the purpose of writing a self help book and then ending it with failure! For those 8 days I lived a life that I had created. Do you understand what I understood in telling you this? <br /><br />We all create our lives with or without passion by virtue of the purpose we assign ourselves to. Let me give you a more plausible example. A wrong example of misplaced passion fuelled by misplaced purpose. If you have ever told a lie, then you have attempted to alter realities. Ask the woman who cheats on her husband. She now must tell a story to her lover to mislead him into believing her justification on why it is ok for her to put her marriage to shame. Heck her story is so powerful that she almost builds reason and respect in her action. She then by her actions leads her lover away from the truth. She also guards her husband from finding out the truth. Her actions and words and intentions are all focused on creating a whole new world of lies and deception. And does she succeed in creating characters out of the people in her world, yes!! Does she succeed in creating circumstances that lead her and others into her lies? Yes!! Does she succeed in creating challenges and struggles and momentary victories in all of this? Yes!! But sadly, the end of her story is a disaster because the starting purpose was a lie. And though creation of a reality needs passion but if the purpose is misplaced, disaster is inevitable.<br /><br />No matter what job you do, know that you create your own confusion, that you create all the characters that then by virtue of your creation become a part of your life, that you create your own challenges and circumstances, and in the end you create your own victory or failure. Its all self created. I create it when I start with a clear purpose, like how I started my book with a purpose. Without a purpose the book becomes a deception, where the writer thinks he is writing, but the reality is that he is nowhere even close to a pen or paper. Without a purpose a person’s life becomes a deception, where the person thinks he is living life, but is nowhere even close to the glory that life holds for him.<br /><br />No matter what job you do, if you care enough to care for people you deal with, if you constantly focus on self improvement, if you keep your purpose expanded towards service then you connect to a degree of passion that will raise you to heights beyond your wildest dreams.<br /><br />The true test of purpose driven by passion is “Did your job change your life? Did you emerge bigger? Did you make a contribution far greater than you will be ever be compensated for. And if your answer is a hesitant yes,,, then my friends you have taken a leap beyond passion, you have touched and fulfilled the purpose of life itself!!!!”Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com17tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-79466909458118970722010-06-27T00:09:00.001-07:002010-07-03T13:52:45.075-07:00Emotional Atyachar<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUxeOa0SemHiqhZDP2lornWAlTZVs5b01EUlmXgkVIk0tJm-2NzElB3K1M3TiAodEgQfXh9PyLJRKWLu1EUGbmVAAfvoAitKytH4NIm5sA7cjZHkIR8xFIiVz4UyM1lkmUx4AVc_h3FaY/s1600/sad-face.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 196px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUxeOa0SemHiqhZDP2lornWAlTZVs5b01EUlmXgkVIk0tJm-2NzElB3K1M3TiAodEgQfXh9PyLJRKWLu1EUGbmVAAfvoAitKytH4NIm5sA7cjZHkIR8xFIiVz4UyM1lkmUx4AVc_h3FaY/s200/sad-face.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5489785473656070258" /></a><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Emotional Atyachar</span><br /><br />Underneath most professional disasters I can see unresolved personal emotional distress. As much as we have agreed on the professionalism at work we must not forget that we after all are emotional beings. And the word motion (action) is contained in the work Emotion (feeling). Which simply means that we will behave in accordance to how we feel. <br />When employees don’t ‘feel’ emotionally positive then don’t deliver expected results. People who are suffering from emotional distress are likely to make errors, be forgetful, be irritable, indifferent and would even break down if you confronted them. On many occasions that people fail to deliver results not because of a lack of ability, but because of a lack of ‘emotional control’. It is very important not to make your emotional mess a professional atyachar at work. Emotional stability is an art and a discipline that can be followed. Here are some things for your to remember next time you bring your emotional baggage to work.<br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">1. Know your role well. </span>I once asked one of my employees why he looked so ‘down’ he said that he was having problems managing time with his children at home and his wife was accusing him of being a bad father. Well, we all fall trap to accusations as a result of other people’s bad moods at home. That does not mean we bring the bad father or the bad husband to work. We need the good employee at work. Know your role and be that role. At work be a good employee and at home attempt at being a good father. When you bring a bad father at work, you create a bad employee too.<br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">2. Know your purpose well.</span> I was once visiting a colleague at work and he looked really ‘low’ and he was not the same ‘cheerful’ person I knew. When I asked him if everything was ok, he said that he was really shattered because he was having financial problems at home and I almost yelled out to him, “I’m having financial problems too, and that’s why I come to work!” I guess what people don’t understand is that when they bring their personal worries to work, then will create worries in their career too. You come to work to create better possibilities of a better life. When you mess up your work space with your emotional hang ups you certainly lower your chances of prosperity.<br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">3. Know your commitment well.</span> When you signed the dotted line and came into the organization you committed to deliver results in exchange for the salary you get. When you come in sulking like a school boy you will create professional blunders. I once had an employee who hung out more in the corridors smoking away his worries. Instead of putting his head to his work and creating the results he was getting paid for he was burning his heart outside over his girlfriend who was marrying an old rich man. His emotional indulgence during work hours did not bring his girlfriend back but sure turned his career in. Your company and your colleagues do not deserve your bad mood and subsequent negligence. Just like you did not bring a foul temperament to the interview you must keep it away every day of your work life. <br /><br />If you have a problem solve it at the place where it exists. You can’t solve problems with your wife while you are at work. While at work, put the personal problems at hold and solve them after work hours. Similarly when at home put your professional problems at hold and solve them at working hours. When you carry foul moods to places where they don’t belong you will not only lose your stand on the problem you were in but you will also create a new problem in the area you neglected as a result. Most people cave themselves in because have mixed up their emotional baggage so much that everything personal has become professional and everything professional has become personal. Such people become a professional liability and personal failures. Keep your professional space clear of emotional clutter, that by far is the fastest route to success and prosperity and a clearer and happier state of being.Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-69979725034694177292010-06-04T21:03:00.001-07:002010-06-04T21:08:53.261-07:00Home ComingIts been really really long since I blogged. Everyone has been literally on my case since a few months and every time someone says, "Why havent you posted a new blog?" My usual defensive reply is "yes yes I will!". And since I never did, I became more and more defensive when anyone brought it up.<br /><br />See I started the blog because I liked writing my thoughts and sharing it with the world. That was the start of my journey towards passion and love. And somewhere along the line my passion crossed the line and moved towards commitment which I think I was not ready for. And so many times I have seen talent wither away because people were not able to make the transition from passion to committed contribution. A master is a master because he is committed to contribution... and then there are people like me, who want to remain in the realm of love at my our convenience.<br />But..... I have figured that when I write somehow learn my own lessons. My second book is evidence of that. And so I am pushing my love for writing to committed contribution !<br />Thank you everyone for irritating the living daylights out of me.<br />I will grow more and I owe that to your persuasion.Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-84132165772955751492009-11-25T19:52:00.000-08:002009-11-25T19:57:14.263-08:00You Are The Voice<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh72wGIJr6D279GubpR4vkqtCWv3Y8XkK6CuL7i_WwDwlfYnVFJLrrkOveFM9c7LBK3KjPQq78Zv5n72bcGiJzDa5up_lvZtOdBq1FF8KM165W1gMLEoNPeHYRvZvZinFIdfqVzxgcu0tQ/s1600/Speak_up_by_motherwarxx.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh72wGIJr6D279GubpR4vkqtCWv3Y8XkK6CuL7i_WwDwlfYnVFJLrrkOveFM9c7LBK3KjPQq78Zv5n72bcGiJzDa5up_lvZtOdBq1FF8KM165W1gMLEoNPeHYRvZvZinFIdfqVzxgcu0tQ/s200/Speak_up_by_motherwarxx.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5408256371362658418" /></a><br />You’re the voice<br /><br />In my workshops I am often encountered with people who say they are lost. They feel they need direction and want me to show them. “I hate my job and I want to quit, what do you think I should do ?” “My husband abuses me, I want a divorce, what do you think I should do ?” “I am not happy with my life, what do you think I should do ?”<br /><br />At some point or the other we have all felt lost. We found ourselves at a junction where we didn’t know which turn to take ! We have all been at cross roads of right/ wrong/ compromise/ follow your heart. And it is in times extreme stress and despair that we look for a person who has the answers to our questions. We look for that voice outside which will give us those magical words of wisdom to set our world right.<br /><br />What I am proposing is this. There is no answer outside. All answers are within. You are more than you give yourself credit for. If you asked me my age, and if I said, “I am 63” you would laugh at my face. You asked me a question and I gave you an answer, but you didn’t buy it ! I move on to tell you “I am 42”, you still won’t believe me. Then I say “I am 32” and you would go “hmmm that could be possible, but you look a bit younger”. The point I am driving at is this, in asking me the question you already have an estimate of the answer. You are merely looking for a match in my words. In other words, when we have a question or confusion, we already know the estimate answer. Why not act on our own answers anyways. When we seek answers from others, what we are actually seeking is companionship and re assurance that we are understood. When we turn to others to sort our world we are actually calming our own loneliness. We really want to be heard and understood than to seek advice. The greatest frustration of counsellors is that their patients don’t follow their advice. The truth is the patients just want to be heard and understood. They didn’t pay the money for advice, they paid the money to be understood. And that feeling of being heard and understood gives them enough sanity to move on with their own decisions.<br /><br />I do workshops where I get people to walk on fire. Now there are many theories why the coals won’t burn you. I can quote from physics, from biology, philosophy and even spirituality. All this data helps in understanding one’s fear and one’s power. But believe me, when you are faced with the gleaming hot coals and you are next in line to take that step on the fire, you won’t remember a word of what I said. Fear does not understand science. Fear does not understand faith. Fear only understands your perspective. When fear is knocking your power out, it is what you tell yourself that will decide whether you will step on the coals or not. By the fireside, there is an intense conversation happening, between you and yourself. And finally when people walk across the coals without getting burnt, I ask them “How did you do it ?” ! And every single time I get this answer, “I told myself ............” It is always what they told themselves that took them across the coal.<br /><br />Advice is good, opinions are good, knowledge is good. They give you a broader view and perspective on the world around you. But end of the day you are the one who knows your reality best. You are the keeper of your own truth. And the only person who can take you across your firewalk is your own voice.<br /><br />At the fireside, there are only two options; to take the step forward in faith or to step back in fear. And that step is propelled by your own voice.<br /><br />You will never know ‘how to walk on the fire’. You will never know if you will find love in your life again. You will never know if your next boss will be a better person. You will never know if you will burn on the fire. But one thing you will know for sure; when you make up your mind and take the step forward despite your fears and past failures, your entire system will support you because that is what it is designed to do. And no matter what the consequence, the place at the end of the fire bed is far more exhilarating than the place you were before.<br /><br />So next time you find yourself at cross roads, consider all facts and opinions but in the end listen to your heart. People love to experiment with others lives by advicing them. And somehow all of us are experts in what is best for others. Only you know the real truth about who you are you and what you do. Only you can really sort your life. Make up your mind in the direction YOU know is right, and you will succeed. I have absolute certainty that we all know what the right thing to do is, whether we do it or not.<br /><br />We belong to a culture that thrives on opinions and moves on approvals. When you open up your problem book to another, you are turning away from your own power. Listen to your own voice before it drowns in the noise of others.Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-84611937195075536402009-10-15T09:42:00.000-07:002009-10-15T09:47:19.166-07:00Destiny is a Daily thing<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgU21c9S1-nFmrkdNJO79j3jGY4UB3-5t3IX_M7hLWCsfzZL-4S7tGIyWmhyphenhyphenRF1zXSp4EiJP280P45v6k_fEY85z18uEAlQCBYmweVbiXvVuXgrJoyzpOmCKzdlM_BWhz1ZX0RIO3cAabk/s1600-h/destiny.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 133px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgU21c9S1-nFmrkdNJO79j3jGY4UB3-5t3IX_M7hLWCsfzZL-4S7tGIyWmhyphenhyphenRF1zXSp4EiJP280P45v6k_fEY85z18uEAlQCBYmweVbiXvVuXgrJoyzpOmCKzdlM_BWhz1ZX0RIO3cAabk/s200/destiny.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5392869262798062962" /></a><br /><br />Each one of us has our fair share of ‘potential’ destiny, just as the seed has the ‘potential’ of a tree. Unlike the seed, which is at the mercy of its environment to grow, we are blessed with the gift of choice, which gives us power over our environment. In other words, what that means is, we can create our own circumstance.<br /><br />Life is a perspective. When you change your perspective, you change the way you think. When you change the way you think, you change how you feel. When you feel better, you perform better. And when you perform better on a daily basis, you see magical results.<br /><br />A lot of people feel that the past shapes the future. If you look carefully, today is a result of your past. Today will be the past for tomorrow. So in a more intense perspective, it is today that will eventually equal to your future. Don’t use your past mistakes and mishaps as the foundation of an unfortunate future. You fail tomorrow if you fail today. You don’t fail tomorrow because you failed yesterday.<br /><br />You can have a shot to success everyday. A lot of people quit on their lives because they feel that their past has been too messed up. Success eludes them because they continue to live their life ‘everyday’ in the same mindset of helplessness. At some point or the other, we have all made mistakes, we all have been beaten, we all have been cheated, we all have all fallen short of our own expectations. At some point or the other, we have wronged ourselves and wronged others. But the only point where destiny is shaped is the point where you stand now. It is ‘now’ where you choose what you will do about all that has happened to you and all that you can make happen for yourself. It is in your choice today, that you will set a whole series of events and intentions in action for the future. Today is a chance for you to set your past right. Learning from your past is a smart thing to do, but only the ignorant live their past everyday.<br /><br />I do personal breakthrough workshops and use the firewalk as an analogy to make this point. I often tell people that just because they got burnt in the past does not mean that they will burn today on my firewalk. Burns like accidents happen when one is not paying attention, when one acts out of ignorance and when one lacks intention. When people do walk on fire, they do so with full attention, awareness and intention. Is it then magic that they did not get burnt ? Certainly it is magic. There is magic in paying attention, there is magic in awareness and there is magic when actions are done intentionally. So what role does a past burn have to play in the decisions you make today ? Every burn, every loss, every hurt teaches you one lesson: “responsibility”. If you learn to take responsibility of what happens to you, then you become a powerful person. Destiny is not about what happens to you, destiny is shaped in what you do about it here from.<br /><br />All people who rose to greatness had pasts they were not proud of. They have also had their share of misfortunes. They became great because no matter what happened to them, they made choices of greatness on a daily basis. Whether it is Bill Clinton, Oprah Winfrey, Mahatma Gandhi, your next door neighbour, or you, all alike, have some parts of their past that could potentially destroy them. And all alike, have equal opportunity to create a better life. And that opportunity knocks your door daily in every choice and in every decision you make. <br /><br />You too can create your own destiny, and you can start today. As long as you are alive, you have your shot at creating your world the way you want it. Your destiny is giving you a chance daily. Grab it.Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-10086910056051503112009-09-29T00:44:00.000-07:002009-09-29T00:49:17.159-07:00I have a great life<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirzXwIOdn7nE7LTaa-yYhCf0cTFWSo5eocVYiD3RJbLUMq0Rd3TiFjIqF5p0BGe_D7RuGMSdMdN7eVMzH-iztlehT_bD7QBJbgwsTdl6_P-2qeiyjh2YTCa12YdqVOH3NAlwd6ZGjfXK0/s1600-h/ashdown+forest.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEirzXwIOdn7nE7LTaa-yYhCf0cTFWSo5eocVYiD3RJbLUMq0Rd3TiFjIqF5p0BGe_D7RuGMSdMdN7eVMzH-iztlehT_bD7QBJbgwsTdl6_P-2qeiyjh2YTCa12YdqVOH3NAlwd6ZGjfXK0/s200/ashdown+forest.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5386793284889089522" /></a><br />I have a great life, and if only I would tell myself that everyday, I would have a great life everyday :)<br /><br />Im here in East Grinstead and just being here is an indication of a great life. I landed at Heathrow and the madness I left in Bombay picks you up right at the airport. Its as busy as life can sometimes be. I had to walk a mile with my suitcase (thank God for trolley bags) to the Central Bus Station. People pass you by and everyone has somewhere to go, no one is really there. Only bodies present in the airport, the mind is always somewhere else, either at the place they left, or the place they were headed for. I tried my best to be "there" and I found I was alone.<br /><br />The Central Bus Station is not a fancy pick from the Bollywood movie. Its pretty cold with just alleys for buses to stand. Unlike in India you have vending machines near the benches while you wait. I was hungry and I was cold. Its funny how cold and hunger go together. I have never found myself saying "Im hot and Im hungry", thirsty is much appropriate. I dont know what the English were thinking when next to the bench at the bus station, out in the cold, they have vending machines selling ice creams. I was cold and I was hungry and the only thing I could find handy to eat was ice cream. I dont know what the selling psychology is here, but I headed for the machine. Atleast after eating the ice cream I wont be hungry anymore, only a lot more colder. I put in a 10 pound note with the queen side up, and the machine swallowed her with delight spitting out some wasted change in disgust, and out popped a "Caramel Cream" cup. I ate it with sadistic pleasure my teeth and oesophagus (the canal that takes your food from the mouth to the stomach) shivering in a musical rythm. By the time I finished my cup, my tongue was numb and when the ticket collector asked me "Where are you getting off my lady" I could only babble "South Terminal". He gave me a puzzled glance and shrugged his shoulders "hop in" was all he had to say.<br /><br />East Grindstead is a pretty small town. And Forest Row is a pretty place, true to its name, with Forests everywhere. <br /><br />My first few days were mainly a focus on my health. "How can anyone make themselves so sick ? You have done a great job at that !" Is what my teacher had to say. I felt great already. Whenever someone compliments me, I feel great, even if the compliment was directed at me making myself sick. I guess in my delight that "I did it", I also realised "I" did it. And now I didnt want to do it anymore. "How can I undo my sickness ?" I asked alarmed. "I was beginning to think you would never ask" my teacher said. I always thought she was too pretty to be a teacher. All teachers I had since then were bland, unattractive and yet very wise. I always thought wisdom and beauty dont stay in the same place, but G changed that perception. She was a stunning teacher.<br /><br />I was sent to a chiropractor who would tell me how to undo my sickness. Its funny how I created sickness without any instructions and now I had to be taught how to undo it. "Whatever" I muttered to myself "I will make myself well".<br />The chiropractor was an Italian guy. Massimo. Nice name I thought. Instantly in image of an Italian hunk, long hair, golden skin, dimpled cheek, shiny white teeth came to my mind. And before I could complete my mental sculpture the door to the consulting room opened and out walked a lean man "You must be Priya" he said in a twist almost biting his tongue. It sounded like my name in some strange language, but since he was looking at me with a smile, I nodded.<br />Massimo was Italian. He wore pants shorter than his size and a white shirt like the ones that sailors do. He seemed like a man who was so passionate about his work, that he had no time to dress up...er... like an Italian man. He sure had a set of shiny white teeth but the huge mole on his lip took your attention away from that. He had a dimple alright but everytime he smiled the mole almost touched the dimple. "Lets set you right" he said in a very Italian Accent, and I was ready.<br />A chiropractor works with your bones and aligns your body. When he finds your spine out of order he can also point to the disorder in the organs that are related with that point on the spine. One tickle down my spine and he figured that I had a colony of parasites in my stomach and intestines and also some that were causing me allergies and headaches. Wow. Italian men are smart. The first step was to set my spine right. <br />He lay me on a table and asked me to fold my arms clutching my shoulders. Then he twisted my neck on the side and said that he would raise me from the back, pull me in an embrace and crack my spine. "Good Lord ! If he makes a wee tiny mistake, I will not need this body anymore." I closed my eyes and Massimo put his hands under me raising me from the back in a one short "huh" cracked 6 bones on my back. "Thats good" he said. As I straightened my self on the table feeling a distinct relief in my back I realised that my long time dream had come true, of being in the arms of an Italian man, even if he was a chiropractor with short pants and a mole in his lip, genuinely interested in the vertebrae of my spinal cords and the energy imbalance of my body.<br /><br />I must say that the spinal correction worked wonders on my body, though usually the hug would suffice, and I quite look forward for more wellness. ....<br /><br />(to be continued) (only on special request)Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8824661336092306702.post-81711155346308915192009-06-10T08:58:00.000-07:002009-06-10T09:27:35.193-07:00Wrong Place... Wrong Time<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhL-UpORxCSXRtvKb07hRQNbwqIsuWpOvy6766pNEI4lHpTjQXmupFWtm3Fikx7DyxoUXhWFTCu5LortiTLgNEef7dRzwl22h0YjslGDP3J_Ig_s9HlBu97s9ozWJWPRe1yjtLBlq54CTE/s1600-h/accident-funny-761529.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 135px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhL-UpORxCSXRtvKb07hRQNbwqIsuWpOvy6766pNEI4lHpTjQXmupFWtm3Fikx7DyxoUXhWFTCu5LortiTLgNEef7dRzwl22h0YjslGDP3J_Ig_s9HlBu97s9ozWJWPRe1yjtLBlq54CTE/s200/accident-funny-761529.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5345736372124314098" /></a><br />Have you ever been in a situation, kinda, <strong>wrong place at the wrong time</strong> ? You got fired for something you didn't do ? You got hit by an angry boyfriend when you weren't even hitting on his girlfriend ? You got caught for a crime you didn't commit ? You got ketchup on your new shirt which you weren't even pouring ? Your car got banged at the signal you didnt even break ? Well, thats called timing.... at the wrong end.<br /><br />I am a believer that life is not an accident. That somewhere there is a hidden intent in all that happens to us. That somewhere, unknowingly but certainly, we create our own realities.<br /><br />If you have been raising your fist at the sky muttering, "Why does this always happen to me ?" Then here is some news for you.... You lead yourself towards your greatest lesson. And if you care to inspect closely, there <strong>IS</strong> something you <strong>DID</strong> or <strong>DIDNT DO</strong> that you <strong>SHOULD HAVE DONE</strong> to cause or to prevent what happened to you. <br /><br />And if you are the kind who must blame another for all that happens to you, then you have bought yourself a life full of misery. It would take considerable courage to look at the situation squarely and ask yourself <strong>"How did I cause this to happen ?" </strong><strong>The answer is not to make you small but to make you powerful.</strong> You become powerful when you are at cause and you become weak when you are at effect. If you can catch yourself "causing" all the "accidents" in your life, then you certainly can turn that around and get lucky.<br /><br />Being at the right place at the right time, is what happens to a person who knows what he wants and wants it at all costs. Being at the right place at the right time needs you to be aware, to be sensitive and above all to be prepared. So when you compare this to all the "bad things that happened to you" you will find that at that time you were in a state of ignorance, confusion and chaos.<br /><br />Your destiny is defined in the clarity of what you want. You lead yourself to your greatest lesson. If you are not aware, sensitive and clear then you will create that knock on your head to stop and get back in focus. Stop you sure do (raise your fist and curse) .... but get back in focus (learn and move on) is what you must do.Priya Kumarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12140705427059646407noreply@blogger.com2